The key distinction between the two is action. Here are the two things you need to know about taking action:
1) You Have to Be Willing to Learn in Front of Other People.
We all have the negativity gremlins. Those spiny little monsters that tell us it’s not ready, or we don’t know enough, or that people will laugh at us. But like multitasking and the tooth fairy, perfectionism is a myth. Perfectionism is an excuse to cave in to your negative self-talk and doubts. The skies will not part and bestow perfection upon you (see #2).
Perfectionism is an excuse to cave in to your negative self-talk and doubts.
Eventually you will have something imperfect that represents your best effort, and the time will come to get out there and share with the world. When that happens, you have to give up the excuses and get naked (metaphorically speaking). Trolls exist, yes. But trolls aside, you will also get real, true feedback that will help you grow and develop far beyond anything you could have done alone. Take the leap. You’ll be following the footsteps of anyone who has done anything worthwhile in the history of the world… and that’s pretty good company to be in, if you ask me.
2)There’s No Magic to It.
Or, as Nathaniel Branden put it “nobody's coming.” In essence, if you want to get something done you're going to have to ensure that it gets done. It’s that simple.
Let it sink in for a second. No one is coming, regardless of whether you wait for them or not. In short, there’s no time like the present. And there is no magic to it, so you have whatever you need to get started. This is fantastic news - It means that whatever you want to do you can go right ahead and do it! Let’s be honest, depending on what it is this may take quite a bit of time. Start where you are, it’s a fantastic place to be.
So, what’s your impossible dream? What do you want to create? And what if you stopped waiting for permission, a rescue team, or a Genie to come from that lamp? It’s not necessarily going to be easy or simple, but it may be! Heck, how do you know if you haven’t tried coming out from behind those warm and cuddly excuse teddy bears of yours and doing it? No magic permission slip from the universe, prince charming, or perfect meteorological conditions necessary.
Start where you are, it’s a fantastic place to be.
There’s the big dream, and the next step. Or as Charles Duhigg calls them, the stretch goal and the action goal. Whichever you are working with, so often the first step is a decision or a commitment. Make no mistake, true commitment is one of the most powerful tools at your disposal. Next - take some sort of action to make progress on that.
Decide and then do. Not decide and then decide and then decide and then you have made amazing progress but only in your own head. As Gretchen Rubin says “decide, and then don't decide.” Because without taking action (even the teeniest tiniest one you can think of) and the opportunity for failure, you really haven't done anything have you?
Because without taking action and the opportunity for failure, you really haven't done anything have you?
Is that how you want to show up to your own life? I don't know about you, but I despise the thought of sitting on my deathbed and knowing that I never really truly committed and tried to do something big. Something for me. Something that I wanted. Something great.
So, what's it going to be?